How to Survive Being Dumped

By Michelle Stevens

It is never fun when a relationship ends. It can feel like your world is caving in and you don´t know what to do or where to go. The notion of being rejected for who you are can also be a huge hit to your self-esteem. The most important thing is not to let it get to you that you stop functioning as a human being. As hard as it may seem, you need to pick yourself up, dust yourself off and move on.

The most difficult situation is when you think the relationship is going really well and you are blindsided by it. The more serious the relationship is, the more difficult this will be.

There are some people who have been dumped on the day of their wedding - and you thought you had it bad! The bottom line is that both people have to feel it and
if one person doesn´t, would you want to be in a relationship with them? Wouldn´t you want the other person to be into it as opposed to simply coasting along?

Many single people feel the anxiety that they will never find someone and so they feel extra devastation when something that seemingly works is over. Regardless, you just have to get over it. This may sound callous but it´s really the best thing you can do. Find a hobby like golf, bingo or hiking. Do something so you won´t wallow and mire in depression.

They may trot out the time-honored catchphrase of ´it´s not you, it´s me´ and while there may be truth to this, there is also the resignation that it still does have something to do with you. After all, why else would they break up with you? You ability to survive being dumped will depend on how much to heart you take this.

Sometimes it can actually be a blessing in disguise. What if it all turns out for the best? Would you then be as upset? Imagine you stay in a relationship with this person and you wind up regretting it. Instead you now have the ability to find the love of your life. If this isn´t your attitude it should be.

Also there are probably situations when you have been the one doing the dumping. Think back to that when it the tables are turned. You should be aware that doing the dumping isn´t any easier. No one willingly likes to hurt people.

In some instances, trying to stay friends with the person who dumped you may not be the best idea. You may be in the same circle of friends in which instance it is kind of inevitable. Do you want to see them and be reminded of them? Often this can be counter-productive.

It depends on the circumstances of your relationship and what sort of relationship you had before you started dating. There are plenty of people who have stayed friends after dating. There is no right or wrong answer - when it comes to matters of the heart there never really are.

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About The Author
Michelle Stevens is a well known journalist that writes for many newspapers and online news sites. Her recent article on fun bingo games played from the home, has received many praises from the bingo communality. Michelle spends most of her free time with her best friend, her dog Rex.